Are you feeling like your marriage has become a source of pain, emptiness and sadness?
Are the affection and joy your marriage once brought you no longer there?
It is normal and natural for relationships to change over the years.
Life is a journey full of ups and downs, and unexpected change. People never stop learning and growing.
This leads to people experiencing individual changes that affect the relationships around them.
Sometimes these changes can have a serious impact on a marriage.
Whether the changes happening in your marriage seem serious or not, therapy can help.
You don’t have to shoulder this burden alone.
Marriages Change Over the Course of Time
In some cases, couples are feeling like things are changing in their relationship. They want to learn how to cope with those changes and build stronger bonds. Or, at times a partnership may slowly lose its “spark”.
Do any of these marriage stories sound familiar?
My wife and I are happily married but things are changing in our family.
Our last child is about to graduate and leave the nest.
We’re preparing to retire in a couple of years. How can we manage these transitions and keep our marriage intact?
My husband and I have been married for over 30 years but it seems as if we have nothing in common anymore.
Our marriage isn’t bad, but it isn’t good either.
I get no fulfillment from him, and I’m sure he doesn’t get any from me either.
It’s as if we are living two separate lives in the same house. Is it time for us to go our separate ways?”
Serious Problems that Require Immediate Intervention
In other cases, one or both partners may be struggling with major issues. Addiction, affairs, illness or abuse all can cause serious problems within their marriage.
You may be feeling as if your relationship with your spouse or partner has changed. These changes may have left one or both you unsure of how to proceed.
This uncertainty is a major source of tension within marriages. Stressors may leave you feeling stuck or unsure of your marriage relationship.
Know that you don’t have to navigate through these changes alone. There are therapeutic avenues for healing and restoring marriages. These avenues can help you cope with the changes that life can bring.
My husband is struggling with addiction and I don’t know where to turn.
His drinking is leading to violent outbursts and verbally abusive behavior toward me and our children.
I don’t want to leave our marriage, but I’m starting to feel as if I have no other choice.
Marriage Counseling and Therapy are not Just for Couples in Trouble
Most people don’t seek out marriage therapy until there has been a major breach in the marriage. You may not be experiencing a serious problem in your marriage like the one mentioned above.
Marriage counseling and therapy are highly valuable as a preventative measure though. Couples who enter therapy when their marriage is good can reap the benefits of a strong bond.
Handling small and seemingly unimportant issues early will foster effective connections.They will build conversation skills in a way that helps them prevent larger issues.
These larger issues can often destroy a marriage. Having an objective third party marriage counselor can help you and your partner.
The goal being to learn early on how to communicate and weather life’s changes. Dr. Keller can help strengthen your marriage. Partners having a strong bond with each other often prevents larger problems.
Three Key Nutrients in a Healthy Marriage
Dr. Keller specializes in teaching couples how to heal from traumas and violations of trust. He does this by helping couples identify potential areas of pain, betrayal or change.
Once identified he facilitates improvement and healing in problem areas. He also works with couples who are not currently struggling.
Therapy helps build and maintain a stronger and more powerful marriage partnership. Dr. Keller assists couples in identifying key aspects of healthy a relationship such as:
1. Realizing the Relationship is Important
When life gets busy and children, career and other obligations become more time-intensive. We often forget how important it is to make our relationship with our spouse or partner a top priority.
Marriage therapy sessions coach couples on how to recognize and fulfill their need for love, connection and comfort.
2. Realizing the Relationship Needs Nurturing
Just as a newborn baby needs nurturing, every relationship needs care and building up.
It doesn’t matter if the relationship is months old or decades old.
Learning how to nurture your partner and to help them nurture you will help build strong bonds. A strong bond between partners can help weather all life changes.
3. Realizing the Relationship Takes Commitment
It’s easy to put a relationship on the back burner as the issues of life take precedence.
Relationship therapy helps couples understand the need for commitment in marriage. Learning to keep your relationship as a top priority in the face of other commitments is vital.
Training And Marriage Counseling Can Help
Knowing how to successfully nurture and maintain a relationship with your spouse or partner is not always easy. Often this does not come naturally for most people.
Dr. Keller has decades of education and experience in marriage and relationship counseling. He has been helping people build successful relationships for years.
He can assist you in forming a fulfilling and productive relationship with your partner or spouse.
Focuses for Marriage Counseling and Therapy
Marital counseling and therapy helps couples prevent permanent dissolution of their relationship. Through therapy couples learn how to establish several relationship building blocks, such as:
1. How to work through differences with respect
All people have differences in their opinions and outlooks on life. In marriage, these differences can be especially trying. The nature of the intimacy of the relationship raises emotions and tension.
Marriage counseling can teach couples how to navigate around those differences. The goal is to do this in a way that promotes respect and support in spite of their differences.
2. How to communicate in an effective and encouraging manner
Unhealthy upbringings and years of hurtful words and actions can act as the root of many issues for couples. These issues can make expressing yourselves in a positive manner near impossible.
Learning how to communicate in a way that allows you to express yourself is important. Yet, couples must keep the feelings of their partner in mind when speaking their minds. Keeping the conversation open and honest is vital.
3. How to practice preventative maintenance to keep your relationship strong
Stopping problems before they form is always a good practice, no matter what aspect of your life. Marriage and close bonds are no exception to this. Putting effort into your relationship before a problem ever occurs will pay off.
Marriage therapy works to help couples strengthen their bond. Dr. Keller guides couples through exercises that promote intimacy and emotional health.
Please contact our office for more information or to schedule an appointment. We serve patients in the Phoenix and North Scottsdale area. To learn about other services offered by Dr. Keller, please click here.
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